Thank you, Thomas, for this. I'm impressed that you still like "people" after all the bad experiences you have had. I realize everyone is different, individuals. Dividing them into categories seems to be the solution. It is helping me. Finding character friends is difficult for objectivists because we are not "right" or "left" on the political spectrum.
Yeah and it goes far beyond politics too. It's really hard to find people who understand my curiosity, my attitudes, my interests. Which is why I stick like glue to anyone I think does get that, which always opens the risk of then painfully losing that person if I've misjudged him or her. But I think the upside of the value I get from those relationships then they go well far outranks the pain when they don't, especially once you've internalized the idea that only the good, value-oriented people are worth caring about.
I’ve been married 50 years and the reason we have a good marriage, despite many difficult years, is because we agree on philosophy, values, and a life style. Our interests are different but we respect our individuality. I always thought everyone was “just themself,” but I’ve learned most people spend a lot of time conforming to “fitting in.” I have not found a friend who shares my interests and philosophy &/or values. The most I have found is an interest or two & some values.
My experience is that those who are Christian God believers are polite, nice, honest, not aggressive, and prefer less government. They also get their information from God, the Bible, their religion and do not think. Those on the Left dislike those on the Right, will not read or listen to opposing viewpoints, want the government to control life and do not think. And not all "Objectivists" think, some take it as a "religion" which tells one how to live. So I agree with your categories. And think you very smart to have figured this out so young. Only in my 70s am I understanding why I've had so much social trouble.
Thank you, Thomas, for this. I'm impressed that you still like "people" after all the bad experiences you have had. I realize everyone is different, individuals. Dividing them into categories seems to be the solution. It is helping me. Finding character friends is difficult for objectivists because we are not "right" or "left" on the political spectrum.
Yeah and it goes far beyond politics too. It's really hard to find people who understand my curiosity, my attitudes, my interests. Which is why I stick like glue to anyone I think does get that, which always opens the risk of then painfully losing that person if I've misjudged him or her. But I think the upside of the value I get from those relationships then they go well far outranks the pain when they don't, especially once you've internalized the idea that only the good, value-oriented people are worth caring about.
*when they go well
I’ve been married 50 years and the reason we have a good marriage, despite many difficult years, is because we agree on philosophy, values, and a life style. Our interests are different but we respect our individuality. I always thought everyone was “just themself,” but I’ve learned most people spend a lot of time conforming to “fitting in.” I have not found a friend who shares my interests and philosophy &/or values. The most I have found is an interest or two & some values.
My experience is that those who are Christian God believers are polite, nice, honest, not aggressive, and prefer less government. They also get their information from God, the Bible, their religion and do not think. Those on the Left dislike those on the Right, will not read or listen to opposing viewpoints, want the government to control life and do not think. And not all "Objectivists" think, some take it as a "religion" which tells one how to live. So I agree with your categories. And think you very smart to have figured this out so young. Only in my 70s am I understanding why I've had so much social trouble.